Things always take so much longer than I expect. Marc and I started working on a new show about relationships at least two years ago, maybe three. We started thinking we’d do a show based on an article called ‘Anatomy of a Bad Mood’ by Robert Sapolsky. It was a funny article, kind of a gender dynamics thing he wrote for a men’s magazine. But when we started working on it, it fell flat. It just wasn’t right. We had to let it go… We tried again a few more times from different angles but it always felt forced. We were trying too hard. Again and again we had to let it go… We wanted to create a performance that would offer something truly valuable. A piece that would not just satirize relationships but really offer understanding and a way to transform difficulties. And we were creating this piece about relationship together…and all our difficulties have come up. And much has been transformed between us – and continues to in surprising and mysterious ways. For the past three or more years, we’ve been studying experiencially the neurobiology of relationships using our own relationship as fertile ground for discovery. And now we’ve created a piece about it. Finally.
But I have to say, I believe it is worth the wait. One thing I’ve come to appreciate about this project, is that you can’t rush a process like this. When a project really has integrity and something valuable is emerging, it takes the time it takes. And rushing it just creates frustration. When this piece was ready to come, it came in a big rush – seemingly out of nowhere.
I’m telling you all this not only to invite you to come experience this new performance piece yourself (See below for details). But I also wanted to share a bit about our process in case it’s helpful. Maybe you have a project, or an intention that seems to be taking too long. Maybe you are coming up against blocks and needing to let things go again and again. Don’t lose heart. And if you do lose heart, be kind to yourself. These things take time.
How Implicit Memory Shapes Us
Have you ever wondered why you feel the way you do? Or why you keep falling into the same patterns of relationships again and again?
You are invited on a journey to explore our inner landscape. Below our conscious awareness, bodily sensations, surges of feeling, behavioral impulses and perceptual biases continuously influence our relationships.
This transformative performance piece inquires into the neurobiology of relationship through story, poetry, movement and sound.
January 11 & 12
The Brooklyn Bay
$20 / ticket